The bersanding was held on Saturday. We drove down by car on Friday and in tow were Nina’s two children 11-year-old Sarah Hamidah and seven-year-old Heikal, and my eight-year-old grandson, Adam.
It’s been a while since I last attended a wedding of a relative. My late cousin, Dato Abdul Kadir Hj Sameon, died 11 years ago in a car accident while on his way to attend a wedding reception of a son of former State Secretary Dato Sulaiman. Dato Kadir was an Asst District Officer of Mersing and a District Officer Johor Bahru in the 70s and head of the State Religious Department in the 80s.
Mohd Rusydi Azfar, 25, the sixth child of Dato Kadir, had married Dr Nurshabila a week earlier. This time around it was the “majlis bertandang” a sort of a welcoming ceremony for the newly-weds at the groom’s house in Jalan Mariammah. Rusydi is a graduate of Universiti Teknologi Malaysia (UTM) while his bride, a graduate of Universiti Kebangsaan Malaysia (UKM).
With the passing years, I have taken the place of my dad and my late mom as a representative of the Samad family at family functions. During the years of my dad's detention under the ISA, it was my mom who representated my dad wherever there was a wedding or funeral to attend in Singapore. She’d fly down first with my late eldest sister, Arwah Kak Piah, Nina or Lalin (my second youngest sister) and my other siblings and I would follow suit. Most of my aunts have passed away and I take the opportunity to meet up with my relatives whenever such an occasion arises.
Talk about petrol hike: it cost my brother-in-law RM200-00 for two-full tank of petrol for a one-way trip. The cost of petrol for a two-way trip was RM400-00 excluding the toll cost of RM88-00 (two-way) and the expenses for accommodation at the Zone in the Free Trade Zone in JB.
Below are some of the pictures taken at the wedding. To Rusydi and Nurshabila, here’s wishing you guys:
“Selamat pengantin Baru dan Semoga Bahagia hingga ke anak cucu.”
The kompang boys beating the "kompang". It's a tradition to have the kompang group at a Malay wedding. The groom will be accompanied by the kompang boys whose job is to beat the kompang indicating the arrival of the groom and his delegation.
The groom and his beautiful bride on the bridal dais waiting to be blessed by the elders
The Kompang Boys
Back row: My relatives from Singapore. Front row (l-r): Adam (my grandson) my sister, Nina, and my niece, MaiSarah.
My sedara-mara ( l-r): Kak Ani, the wife of my eldest cousin, the late abang Dol, Nong (my cousin-in-law) and Siti Aishah, sister of the groom.